HEALTH AT EVERY SIZE
Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?
What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:
- eating better (such as reducing processed foods)
- exercising/moving more
- stopping smoking
- working on that depression
We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.
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Part 7: How true are your truths?
"We see the world, not as it is, but as we are--or, as we are conditioned to see it." - Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
Many people have 'everything' (society says) you need to be successful: money, big houses, lots of assets, and even fame. Yet they don't feel happy or satisfied. Do you know why that is?
Because they lie to themselves. They rationalize their actions by creating stories in their minds. Otherwise all they would hear would be their gut feelings trying to knock some sense into them.
And they don't want to acknowledge these gut feelings because they fear the consequences of owning these feelings.
It's not just the rich and famous who lie to themselves. Most people do that. And they don't realize that doing so really messes with their irresistibility. Let me give you two common examples.
A. "When I do something for someone, I don't expect anything in return."
Let's say Amanda likes Jerry and wants him to like her. So, she offers Jerry to pick up his kids from school.
'This way he'll think I'm a nice person,' Amanda rationalizes. But, deep down, Amanda knows she's doing it because she wants that someone to love her and be with her.
Amanda's truth (a.ka. the self-lie): "I'm just being nice."
The raw truth: Doing something for someone because you expect something in return is called manipulation.
The sad truths:
- If this doesn't pan out, Amanda will feel like she is being used. In reality, she used herself to try to manipulate the other person.
- If this does work out, there will be a time when Amanda may no longer keep up with picking up the kids. What happens then?
What you can do about that:
- Just be you. (Of course, if you've got a crazy side, you may not want to show that at the office.)
- Be true to yourself. When you plan to do something for someone else, ask yourself what you want in return and write that down. If you do need a favor from that person, be frank about it. Yes, you may be rejected but it's better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't love the real you or loves you for what you can give him.
B. "I don't judge people!"
But is that really true?
I mean people say they don't judge others but will still:
- Criticize how others (especially women) are dressed
- Make fun of that lady who chose not to have a professional career so she could devote her time to her family
- Make nasty comments about others body size and shape
- The list goes on
If these thoughts come to your mind, don't beat yourself up. You're human. But this doesn't mean you should ignore them.
Instead, ask yourself why the way person X dresses / looks like / lives her life disturbs you? Do you think you can help that person out, and that's why you're concerned? Or is it something else?
Remember: society tends to shape the way we see things. It's our duty to always question the authenticity of our thoughts.
Being the master of your own thoughts and actions will get you one step closer to being irresistible.
Submitted by: Shari
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