HEALTH AT EVERY SIZE
Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?
What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:
- eating better (such as reducing processed foods)
- exercising/moving more
- stopping smoking
- working on that depression
We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.
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Part 9: All actions are based on intentions
"When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." - Earl Nightingale?
Do you judge others? (#Keep It Real)
You probably do.
We all do. That's human nature and a basic survival instinct.
What's important is what you do with that judgement.
Are you judge, jury, and executioner?
Personality A: You 'live and let live'. And you try to think the best of others and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Personality B: You allow yourself to criticize others by their actions. Perhaps you compare yourself with others and make mental lists of how you're so much better than them.
If you're more of a B type, don't blame yourself. But ask yourself a few things:
You can see others' actions, but you can neither read their mind nor their heart. So, is it fair to create stories about their behavior?
Let me share a story with you.
Isaac is 18. He's a charming young man but people often make nasty comments about his drinking habits. Especially since he was kicked out of two schools within one year. He doesn't want to find a job and often steals money at home to finance his drinking. If you look at his actions, it is easy to think: 'What a loser! He only cares about having fun and doesn't care that his dad is killing himself at work to give him a future.'
But one day he opened up and revealed that when he was 15, his male teacher started harassing him sexually in person and via text messages. And that deeply troubled him. He felt dirty, unworthy, betrayed, and he 'found' solace in alcohol. This once extremely brilliant student could no longer study because opening books, going to school, even other teachers reminded him of that teacher.
What do you think of him now? Do you still think he's a careless loser? Probably not.
Can you see how this extra piece of information can flip our emotion from contempt to compassionate? And our attitude from attitude from intolerance to acceptance?
Would you be attracted to someone who judged you and openly showed disgust or contempt for what you've done without even knowing why you did what you did?
Pearls of wisdom
- All actions are based on intentions. If you can't see the why behind someone's actions, ask yourself if its fair to indulge in judging that person.
- When you judge others by their actions, they know it. Because you will unknowingly let it show via your body language and the way you deal with them. And this annihilates your irresistibility.
- We often judge others not because we think they're unworthy. But because we've got some deep-seated emotional issues. And because deep down we are angry with ourselves and can't forgive ourselves.
The first step towards getting rid of any type of judgement addiction is to be truly present in everything you do. (Yes, again with that concept.) This way you'll be able to catch yourself in a judgement.
And instead of believing in that judgement, you can choose to analyze it and ask yourself why you're judging, what you're afraid of, and how you can avoid having this train of thought again.
Submitted by: Shari
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