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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.

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Going into 2019 with Reflection and Commitment

I've had a whirlwind of a year. How about you? I've had some health scares and made some health decisions and through all of them, I had to do two things: reflect and commit. The reflection comes in the form of the 'how' and 'why' did I get to this place and the commitment comes in the form of 'now what am I going to do about it?' I'm headed into 2019 with the same mindset. It's time to reflect and commit.

With reflection, I had to take a long hard look at myself and evaluate how I came to be morbidly obese. Mind you, I have been obese for no less than half of my 52-year-old life and finally my lucky streak of good health had crossed the thin line over to high blood pressure and pre-diabetes. It was enough for me to consider my options.

For two years straight, I'd contemplated having the gastric sleeve surgery for weight loss. I committed to it, gave up, thought about it some more and then re-committed, but not before some serious reflection. I knew I couldn't go into it blindly and set out to understand the surgery, and myself as well. I committed to reading books, listening to books on tape and attending weight loss surgery support group meetings to get a handle on me and my "hows" and "whys" before I had the surgery. It was a great learning process and something that is helping me to be successful today.

My reasons for having the surgery were purely for health reasons and I don't feel I need to be fanatical to achieve success. I don't want to be a size two. I was always okay with being a SSBBW and still see the same green eyes every time I look in the mirror regardless of my size. I wanted to keep being ok with myself and not beholden to the scale. Because I took the time to reflect, I feel ok with just being me.

After the surgery, done in September 2018, I had to commit to just doing the best that I can. I often feel that having surgery is tougher than dieting simply because you have to know so much about yourself, the surgery, your dietary plan and restrictions, your abilities...the list goes on. You never have to think this much on a diet. It's definitely not the easy way out and I also had to accept that many people feel that way when you tell them you've had surgery...and I'm totally ok with that, too.

Going into 2019, I've reflected on the decisions and changes I've made on behalf of my health and I feel pretty good about that. I'm also about to write down some commitments to move more, drink more water and seek out more experiences with friends I haven't connected with in a long while. This is the time of year to reflect and re-commit to yourself and I hope you do.

Here's hoping you have a beautiful new beginning wherever you are come January 1st.

"Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences and failing to achieve anything useful." --Margaret J. Wheatley

Written by: T.E.Bush

"One resolution I have made, and try always to keep, is this: To rise above the little things."
~John Burroughs
"We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives... not looking for flaws, but for potential."
~Ellen Goodman

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