HEALTH AT EVERY SIZE
Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?
What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:
- eating better (such as reducing processed foods)
- exercising/moving more
- stopping smoking
- working on that depression
We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.
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Part 11: Who are you?
Imagine having a cup of steaming coffee with someone amazing - I'll call him Mike.
So, you're sitting in a swing chair, with your feet in the grass, listening to blue birds chirping in their nests.
And Mike says: "I'd love to get to know you more. Tell me, what's your story?"
What would you say made you the way you are? How would you tell your story? Which words would you use?
We all have stories. But the way you play them in your head is what will 'make or break' your irresistibility.
You see, many women tend to:
- Believe that they're "not attractive / young / strong / intelligent enough".
- Point out things they don't like about themselves.
- Cast a "I'm not worthy" veil on their heads.
There are a myriad of reasons.
Perhaps thinking that you are worthy enough (because you are) will mean that you need to (and totally can) create a happier life for yourself.
But you know that if you shift your mindset, you'll end up having more work to do to make your life awesome. And you're scared of that extra work.
Not because you're lazy - you're not. But what happens if you do all the work and you're not happier? You'd be all out of options, right?
No, you wouldn't. Because if you work on trying to be happier, you'll metamorphose into someone else. And the new you will not regret working on version 'You 2.0'.
Another reason is that many women believe that talking about how gloomy their past was will, somehow, create a personal connection between them and the other person. (News flash: if it does create a connection, that connection will not last long because human beings need hope. And if your stories are always dark and cold...).
My point is, believing in untrue thoughts about yourself, is like:
- Striving to stunt your growth into the amazing woman I know you are.
- Carrying a neon sign above your head reading "Truck-load of baggage. Engage at your own peril."
- Playing the victim (check part 10 to see how that affects your irresistibility).
I am not saying you shouldn't talk about your past. But should you choose to, how about mentioning your past from a place of self-awareness?
- Mike asked you a question. So, what would you say? Write that down. Or record yourself. But don't filter. Don't edit.
- The next day, read what you wrote or listen to the recording. Is your past weighing you down? Are you still defining yourself from other people's point of view or your own? Is the person talking or writing a victim of her past? Or a victor?
- Can you rephrase what you wrote or said? For instance, how did event X help you become who you are today?
Submitted by: Shari
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