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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Part 12: Are you (un)consciously smudging black paint all over the irresistible you?

Which of the following meals are you more likely to buy:

1. Meal A with some dull greyish-white mashed potatoes dumped on a plate 'prison-style' with a piece of steamed fish that looks some dried cardboard?


2. Meal B with a few scoops of mashed potatoes drizzled with molten, golden yellow butter and sprinkled with some crisp, vibrant green chopped parsley and some steamed fish slightly covered with fiery red paprika?

Meal B? Although both meals include potatoes and fish, the way the food is plated is what will make it irresistible. (Provided the food doesn't smell like moldy old socks...)

The same concept applies to you.

No. I'm not saying I think you look like fish and mashed potatoes.

What I'm saying is that you are a beautiful diamond. And like all diamonds, you may need a little polishing if you want to sparkle even more.

We are bombarded with pictures of skinny, glamorous women and are told that this is what is beautiful. And we forget that many of these women:

So, many women give up trying. Because how can you compete with so-called "perfection"?

(No, I don't think skinny is healthy or beautiful. I was once a very skinny athlete until I passed out like 1 inch from the finish line, didn't win the gold medal, and ended up with really messed up hormones and an immune system that had serious beef with me.)

And the sad thing is these women don't just stop trying.

They also, unconsciously, start sabotaging their irresistibility because what if they put themselves out there and still get rejected?

You're probably saying "She doesn't know what she's blabbering about. I don't do that!"

Great. But do you do any of the following:

If yes, do any of these things help you feel pretty? Or do you do things which make you feel unpretty for YOU, not for society?

Because when you feel pretty (even if it's midnight and you're in your PJs), your body language will ooze self-confidence. In other words, you'll be irresistible.

P.S. Being irresistible has nothing to do with how fashionable or not you are. It has everything to do with loving yourself and being comfortable in your own skin.

Homework: Make a list of things you do that make you feel like bland mashed potatoes and decide what to do about it.

Submitted by: Shari

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