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"Large women are less judgmental, less vain, less arrogant, less self-centered, kinder, and more honest than your average woman." ~ Dargan [FA]


Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We would like to introduce you to a blog series on Intuitive Eating. This blog is written by Danielle Lithwick M.A., founder of Move Out Of Madness. With over a decade of combined education and experience in nutrition, yoga, psychology, addiction counselling, mindfulness, and personal training, she believes that how we move and how we eat should nourish not only our bodies but also our minds. Her mission is to teach people how to take the simpler and saner approach to exercise and eating using a personalized, skills-based, and compassionate approach to change. Her coaching services are rooted in non-diet and weight-neutral approaches to health and in the values of education, empowerment and enjoyment. She lives in Ottawa, ON Canada.

We urge you to read the first two of a series of blogs at these links:

We'll post links to the following blogs in our next issue.

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Unlock YOUR irresistibility
Part 13: Getting things straight

I'm sure that pretty brain of yours asks a lot of questions especially when it comes to your irresistibility.

Over the years, I've compiled a list of questions many of my clients ask themselves. I'll discuss three of the main ones here. But keep in mind that you want to create your own solution because what works for a thousand women may not work for you.

Because you're unique

1. Why can't I let go of [behavior that ruins your irresistibility]?

Often, we're so used to doing things a certain way that the simple thought of having to change frightens us. And when we resist something, consciously or not, it will persist.

This can help: Write that behavior down. And list all the pros and cons of maintaining that behavior. The next day, come back to your list and see whether this behavior is helping you be the irresistible fox you can be. Or not.

By acknowledging what no longer works for you, your brain will be more open to change.

2. I am [describe your body but BE NICE]. Do men want that?

Sure, there are jerks out there. But you don't want them - am I right?

Keep in mind that respectable men like women, of every shape and size, who can genuinely be themselves (and are not living in fantasy world). If you're mean to yourself, this will show in your body language and that might probably off-putting.

This can help: Look at yourself in the mirror. Pretend you're looking at your best friend. What would you say to her?

Would you say nasty comments about her body shape?

If you do think your friend needs some makeover, how would you tell her that?

Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself as if you were your best friend.

3. I'm not pretty enough. That's why I can't be irresistible, right?


Being irresistible has nothing to do with your shape, size, color of your skin. It has everything to do with what you believe to be true about yourself.

If you keep replaying "I'm not good enough" thoughts in your mind, you will eventually believe those thoughts. And this will seep into everything you do.

This can help: Write down negative thoughts you have about yourself on a piece of paper. Ask someone who truly cares about you to describe you. Does what that person say resonate with what you've written?

Keep in mind that we tend to be over-judgmental of ourselves. And that does way more harm than good.

What if all this doesn't work?

At times, we need professional support.

That's not a sign of weakness.

It's just that our "life book" is too close to our eyes and we can't read it. So, we need someone else to read that book for us and help us see what we can't.

Submitted by: Shari

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