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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

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Part 7: How true are your truths?

"We see the world, not as it is, but as we are--or, as we are conditioned to see it." - Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Many people have 'everything' (society says) you need to be successful: money, big houses, lots of assets, and even fame. Yet they don't feel happy or satisfied. Do you know why that is?

Because they lie to themselves. They rationalize their actions by creating stories in their minds. Otherwise all they would hear would be their gut feelings trying to knock some sense into them.

And they don't want to acknowledge these gut feelings because they fear the consequences of owning these feelings.

It's not just the rich and famous who lie to themselves. Most people do that. And they don't realize that doing so really messes with their irresistibility. Let me give you two common examples.

A. "When I do something for someone, I don't expect anything in return."

Let's say Amanda likes Jerry and wants him to like her. So, she offers Jerry to pick up his kids from school.

'This way he'll think I'm a nice person,' Amanda rationalizes. But, deep down, Amanda knows she's doing it because she wants that someone to love her and be with her.

Amanda's truth (a.ka. the self-lie): "I'm just being nice."

The raw truth: Doing something for someone because you expect something in return is called manipulation.

The sad truths:

  1. If this doesn't pan out, Amanda will feel like she is being used. In reality, she used herself to try to manipulate the other person.
  2. If this does work out, there will be a time when Amanda may no longer keep up with picking up the kids. What happens then?

What you can do about that:

B. "I don't judge people!"

But is that really true?

I mean people say they don't judge others but will still:

If these thoughts come to your mind, don't beat yourself up. You're human. But this doesn't mean you should ignore them.

Instead, ask yourself why the way person X dresses / looks like / lives her life disturbs you? Do you think you can help that person out, and that's why you're concerned? Or is it something else?

Remember: society tends to shape the way we see things. It's our duty to always question the authenticity of our thoughts.

Being the master of your own thoughts and actions will get you one step closer to being irresistible.

Submitted by: Shari

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