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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Part 5: Unlock YOUR irresistibility without spending a dime

Break Your Chains

If I say 'prisoner', what comes to your mind?

Someone behind bars?

That's right. But you don't necessarily need to be incarcerated to be a prisoner.

Your thoughts and beliefs can also make you prisoner.

As explained in previous articles, many of us operate on premises that are not necessarily true.

For instance, a person can think that she doesn't have enough willpower to make healthier life choices, so she just keeps on with habits she knows don't work for her. And someone else can believe she isn't beautiful enough to deserve self-care so she just doesn't bother avoiding doing things for herself. (And no, I'm not making this up - I've heard various versions of these statements in my career.)

In these two cases, these individuals will probably not even try to make changes (even tiny ones) to improve their situation because they don't think they can.

Like Henry Ford said, "whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right."

And the issue is that many women believe that once they meet Prince Charming (or once their current partner becomes more of a prince), they will be able to change themselves.

The truth is that you don't need a savior.

You can save yourself from yourself.

You just need to believe in yourself. And then take that first step towards whatever goal you're waiting to accomplish 'until the time is right'.

Let's say, you want to eat healthy, but your health won't allow you to cook every day. And your budget won't permit you to order healthy meals online. This doesn't mean you're doomed.

You could start by simply making sure you have something green at every meal. For instance, you could serve your frozen dinner with a cucumber. Just wash it and eat. (Of course, you could also chop it and make a vinaigrette).

And when you feel a little bit better, you could try batch cooking. With this technique, you simply have to to cook enough for several meals and freeze some for later or for days when you'll feel to unwell to cook.

The same goes for self-care. You could start by allocating five minutes for yourself - you could simply look outside, feel the wind on your skin, and clear your mind completely for five minutes.

And if you ever wanted to exercise but can't bring yourself to actually do it, just start with 5 minutes of daily stretching.

My point is that you don't have to get it perfect. You just have to get it going. I assure you this will have a positive ripple effect on your health and irresistibility.

Submitted by: Shari

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