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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

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Part 8: Little Things Give Life to Big Things

"There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle."
--Albert Einstein--

Have you ever seen a bird taking a bath in a puddle?

Some people may not even think twice about that. Others will just stop whatever they're doing and smile at the sight of colorful wings flapping away happily. (I really hope I'm not the only one who smiles at birds...)

And yes, there's a point to my story.

When you cultivate the habit of finding pleasure in the small things:

Wishful thinking = living an imaginary life instead of living the one you have.

The thing is that reality always finds a way to catch up with to you, leaving you unhappy with your work, relationship, body, house, and the list goes on.

Because this very moment you're living in, well it's a gift you won't ever get back.

And if you keep seeing only the 'what could have been', you'll eventually start thinking 'this [fill in the blank] isn't what I want so why bother make it better?'

Unfortunately, once you get on this thinking path, it's highly likely that all your thoughts will be 'polluted' with wishful thinking. Even trivial things like seeing a friend with blue stiletto shoes and thinking 'Oh, I should've gotten theeeeeeese!'

Instead of being the irresistible, relaxed, and captivating woman you can be, you'll be more focused on complaining, brooding, holding back, and hoping you were someone else. And that would be a shame. Because there's only one you.

What you can do about all this

Take a notepad and write down:

  1. All the things you wish were different and since when you feel like that
  2. Whether you have power to change the things you listed in (i)
  3. If yes, why haven't you changed them yet and what can you do differently?
  4. If no, can you make peace with these things for now? (Maybe taking a step back will give you a clearer picture of what needs to be done.)
  5. Whatever you do, do it the best you can. (Bonus: you might find things more bearable.)

Submitted by: Shari

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