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The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

Happy New Year, everyone! Welcome to 2018!

We're kicking off this year with a book to keep you sane and happy with yourself and others.

The Four Agreements is a guide to achieve a life of freedom and happiness. The author, Don Miguel Ruiz, reveals actionable steps to achieve love, fulfilment and joy in life. The book contains fundamental knowledge which have been revised by many psychologists over the years.

Ruiz teaches four lifestyle commitments, which can transform anyone's life into one of actualization and realization of goals and dreams.

The Four Agreements are :

Be Impeccable With Your Word.

In his own words, "Every human is a magician, and we can either put a spell on someone with our words or we can release someone from a spell." Words are powerful. Words can make you live in continuous fear or be fearless. Being impeccable means speaking with integrity, not going against yourself and taking responsibility for your actions.

Don't take anything personally.

In this section, Ruiz stated that the only reason people take things personally is because they agree with whatever is said. He calls this, personal importance. He described taking things personally as the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about 'me'. People do things for themselves. People's opinions and ideas are according to their perspectives and the agreements they have in their own mind.

Don't Make Assumptions.

Assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We create lots of emotional poison just by making assumptions. Ruiz encourages us to ask for clarification where necessary and never assume anything.

Always Do Your Best.

The author mentions the need to do your best under every circumstance. The quality of your best may differ from time to time. Regardless, always do your best. If you overdo things, you deplete your body and go against yourself. If you do less than your best, you subject yourself to frustrations, self-judgement, guilt and regrets. He believes that doing your best at all times will make you live intensely.

The Four Agreements is a small book filled with much wisdom. Ruiz reiterates that these agreements are simple but require commitment and deliberate effort to keep. You can get a copy here and start 2018 stronger than you've ever been!

Submitted by: Kelechi

"New Year's Day: Now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual."
~Mark Twain
"Ring out the old, ring in the new,
Ring, happy bells, across the snow:
The year is going, let him go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true."
~Alfred, Lord Tennyson, 1850

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