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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Part 4: Do you take personal responsibility for your actions?

So far, we've talked about how implementing the following steps can make you irresistible:

Step 1: Be fully present in everything you're doing. Especially when that little voice inside your head is all chatty.

Step 2: Stop wishing things were different. Either try to find a solution (seeking health or guidance is a solution in many cases) or find a way to grow from your current situation.

Step 3: Review your thoughts about life, love, friends, etc. and give them a makeover if they're updated.

Have you implemented the above 3 tips?

If not, that's okay but you would benefit from doing so before implementing the fourth tip.

Moving on.

Tip # 4: Stop reacting to life.

When something happens in your life (especially when it's unpleasant), do you respond non-judgmentally? Or do you react based on a set pattern of behaviors?

Let me give you an example. I'll call that patient Julie.

Julie came to see me because she couldn't lose weight no matter what she did. It turned out she had an autoimmune disease. After a few sessions, we realized that what caused her to flare up was (i) poor quality sleep, (ii) disturbance in her blood sugar levels and (ii) almonds.

So, we worked on her sleep quality and found substitutes for almonds. And she was doing great.

Then life happened.

Julie had an urgent report to finish and she went to bed waaaaay past her bedtime. She woke up in a daze, didn't have time for breakfast and ran to the office. She had a late lunch and, as you can imagine, inadequate sleep + stress + late meals = hormones that go haywire + increased probability of overeating due to blood sugar levels that are all over the place.

Long-story short: Julie ended up eating a whole bag of sweetened almonds. She felt really sick within half an hour.

As she told me her story, Julie used words like 'I'm SO stupid!', 'I should've known better', 'I wish I didn't eat those almonds' etc. etc.

Would you say Julie was responding or reacting to the whole situation?

Do you think she was stupid?

Would YOU blame her for eating the almonds?

In this example, Julie reacted to the situation. She judged herself and wasn't really fair towards herself.

What did that help her accomplish?


So, we talked about personal responsibility.

In a nutshell, personal responsibility involves:

To sum things up, practicing personal responsibility can help boost your irresistibility. Because doing so will help you become more aware of things you do that are reducing your irresistibility.

And once you're more aware, you'll stop being paralyzed by fear, guilt, and worry associated with doing those things that zap your irresistibility. And you'll soon stop doing those things.

Do YOU practice personal responsibility? Or do you tend to be highly critical of yourself?

Submitted by: Shari

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