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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Part 5: Are you a 'go-getter' when it comes to your irresistibility?

'If you truly want something, W.O.R.K for it. And whatever you begin, you make sure you finish it.' - Mom

I must have been 8 years old the first time my mom said that. Two decades later, these words are even more meaningful to me.

Over the years, countless women have told me that they 'truly' want to feel better in their bodies. While this is true for many, there are some who want to feel better but aren't open to changing a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g.

And others who do make changes but try to do too much at once (despite my advice to take it slow) and end up quitting after a month. Only to start again two months later.

Do you think these women will get somewhere with these tactics?

No. And the same applies to your irresistibility.

If you truly want to be irresistible, you have to step out of your comfort zone and start implementing strategies we've discussed in parts 1 to 4. And then you have to keep implementing them. With your heart.

3 tips to implement if you really want to be an irresistible go-getter

  1. Be true to yourself. Speak the truth. Accept the truth.

    If different people tell you that you argue too much, it's probably true. Instead of arguing that you don't argue, accept the fact that you do. And ask yourself why you do it? Why do you need to always be right? Why do others always have to see things your way?

  2. Avoid playing the victim - it won't get you anywhere.

    Instead of telling yourself 'I'm too tired to exercise in the morning', find out why you're tired?

    Are you binge watching series until 1a.m? If so, why? Is there anything you're trying to escape?

    Or do you have a hormonal issue that is messing with your sleep quality?

    And find a solution - getting support is one.

  3. Be realistic.

    Life will throw pigeon poop at you. And you might not always be able to dodge it.

    And when you get pigeon poop on your new shirt (or your new notebook), you'll be mad and you may slip back in your old habits. That's okay - you're human. But don't dwell too long on that incident: the poop won't magically disappear.

    If you're wondering why I used 'pigeon poop' as an example, let me tell you a story.

    When I was a kid, my mom enrolled my elder brother and I in a language program. It turned out that the teacher held her sessions in her yard. And one day, during a session, a pigeon flying back to its nest pooped on my brother's notebook. I was upset - the notebook was relatively new - but my brother was smiling.

    Who do you think was cuter? Me reacting to the situation and making all kinds of weird faces while complaining about the smell? Or my brother grinning with one front tooth missing as he threw away his notebook?

    No brainer, right? And to this day, people who meet him describe him as 'charming' even when he is wearing clothes that belong in the 80s.

    (P.S. In the story above, my brother wasn't trying to be 'irresistible'. He just hadn't done his homework...)

Submitted by: Shari

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