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The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

Most of us women have been raised to be independent and only ask for help when we are between a rock and a hard place. The thing is we forget that life is all about collaborations, support and openness. When we hold ourselves apart from other people, we cannot connect. We stay preoccupied with sounding smart, looking good and impressing them but this only drives a wedge in relationships.

In this book by Andrea Palmer, The Art of Asking, she encourages us to come out of our shells, meet people halfway, and ask for help when we need it. She reminds us that when we do not ask for help, the people in our lives will have no idea that we need their help or presence.

This Easter season embraces celebrating new life and beginnings. And knowing that asking for help could be a gateway to new opportunities should be motivation for us to share more of our needs.

Palmer emphasizes leveraging people in our communities and just going for it, regardless of the voice in our heads that always warn us not to. She says, "From what I've seen, it isn't so much the act of asking that paralyzes us--it's what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one. It points, fundamentally, to our separation from one another."

Sharing her own experiences in the book, Palmer outlines the emotional and psychological barriers to asking for help and what she learned when she started to lean on her community for support.

Exploring life as an adult unattached from close support systems is interesting yet daunting, but living independently doesn't have to mean flying solo.

This book will challenge you to redefine the power of giving and receiving; of being open and authentic; of solitary independence and support systems.

I personally enjoyed reading it and think it’s a good book for everyone who struggles with vulnerability and asking for help.

Take a step and ask without shame. Accept their help or let them off if they can't, believing that they are not able to help you at the time. Never take a No as a direct attack on you, your reputation or brand.

Let people help you! Purchase the book and have a Happy Easter/April.

Submitted by: Kelechi


"Tomb, thou shalt not hold Him longer;
Death is strong, but Life is stronger;
Stronger than the dark, the light;
Stronger than the wrong, the right..."
~Phillips Brooks, "An Easter Carol"
"Let us be thankful for the fools. But for them the rest of us could not succeed."
~Mark Twain

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