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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Part 6: Top 5 Ways to Kill Your Irresistibility

Nope. The title is not a typo.

Yes, it's meant to grab your attention. Because many actions we perceive as harmless, or even cute, can seriously mess up our irresistibility.

Note: If you are currently doing many of the following irresistibility-killer actions, don't stress. Just acknowledge them in an 'A-ha, I didn't realize I was doing this. I'll be more vigilant next time' way.

  1. Be Needy

    Let's say you have a girlfriend named Cherry. When Cherry texts you or calls you, you've got to answer immediately. Otherwise she'll throw a silent or not-so-silent tantrum.

    And Cherry constantly seeks your approval for everything. From the dress she's wearing to the font she uses on phone and her to-do-list.

    How long do you think you'll want to be friends with Cherry?

    I'm guessing not long.

    You see, being needy often equals feeling desperate or not good enough. And this puts a lot of pressure on the other person (spouse, colleague, friend, etc.) who'll feel like they must be perfect to keep you happy. Eventually, this person will probably walk away.

    Plus, when a woman is needy, she's unconsciously giving away all the power that makes her irresistible.

  2. Be Insecure

    You are beautiful. Because beauty isn't defined by your skin color, age, or wardrobe. Your personal traits are your true beauty. The thing is you must believe it's true.

    Just imagine if Cherry kept asking you if she 'looks fat' or if you think some other woman is prettier than she is. Wouldn't that be irritating?

    Now, we've all got moments when we think we're not good enough. That's human. But constantly entertaining these thoughts will make you insecure. Buh-bye irresistibility!

    I'm not saying you should ignore these thoughts - you want to acknowledge them and find out why you're having these thoughts. For instance, if you think you look older than you really are, could it be that you're not sleeping well? Or your eye makeup doesn't suit you?

  3. Don't Listen to Others

    Women often tend to listen to others with an 'Do I agree with what she's saying?' attitude. And the other person can feel it and she won't want to continue talking to you.

    Would you want to share stuffs with someone who is clearly not listening to you and isn't open to hear things from someone else's perspective?

  4. Stop Taking Care of Yourself

    Looking unkempt is another great way way to drive away others. Because when you stop taking care of yourself, you start developing an 'I don't care about anything' attitude. Would you be attracted to someone who doesn't care about anything?

    I'm not saying you should look like a model every day. Nor am I saying that you have to spend your whole paycheck on how you look.

    Taking care of yourself could be feeding yourself with love, ironing your clothes, wearing clothes that fit you etc.

  5. Be Hard and Bitter

    Women have had their share of struggles all other the world. Some have chosen to harden up and go into victim mode to prevent this from happening to them again. In doing so, they created a rigid aura that says 'Don't come near me. I bite.'

    But others have chosen to embrace their past and rise from all the pain they were in. And they're happy now.

    Realizing that you cannot change your past, but you can use it to make yourself in the heroine you are will really drive up your irresistibility.

Submitted by: Shari

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