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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

Unlock YOUR irresistibility without spending a dime! [Part 2]

As mentioned in Part 1 of this series, you don't need material things to unleash the irresistible woman in you. You just need to be you.

And in this second part, I'll talk about two other things that will help you achieve this.

Tip # 3: Make 'is-ness' your business

What this means is that there's really no point in:

Because everything is as it should be.

And complaining or wishing your reality was different will do nothing.

Except zap your moral and make you gloomy. [People are rarely attracted to 'black hole' kind of individuals, right?]

And stress you out - hello hormone imbalances, digestive issues, and mood swings! [If you don't feel at home in your own body, chances are you'll unconsciously try to push away others. Even those who care about you.]

Not to mention you'll probably feel victimized by the world.

[Very important note: This does not mean you should give up. Nor does this mean you should stay in an abusive relationship. Because making 'is-ness' your business empowers you to take charge of your life.]

So, what are you to do instead?

Try to roll with the flow. See the bright side of things. And see how you can turn a setback into an advantage (without manipulating anyone, of course).

Here's an example: let's say you've realized you can't tolerate tomatoes. The thing is you just cannot live without tomato sauce.

You could cry your eyes out. But that wouldn't improve your tolerance to tomatoes.

Or you could embrace your is-ness.

For instance, you could try to find out if there are active steps you could take to make tomatoes love you again. (Yes, that's possible.) Or you could find substitutes for tomato sauce (like the no-mato sauce). Or you could enlarge your sauce repertoire.

In other words, don't let circumstances defeat you. Because this can only lead to frustration, misery, and pain.

Instead, get back in the driver's seat by developing strategies to make the most of your situation.

Tip # 4: Practice gratitude.

Be happy with what you have. Enjoy the small things and you'll be surprised how this will attract others.


Well, if we focus on what we don't have, we become negative. This can breed thoughts of jealousy, resentment, and bitterness. And this will show in your body language.

We attract what we put out.

Would you be attracted to someone like Snow White's stepmother?

So far, which of these four tips most resonate with you? Feel free to share on the FB page of SSBBW magazine or mine.

Submitted by: Shari

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