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The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women - Why Capable People Suffer from Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in spite of it by Valerie Young
Do you find it difficult to own your success? Do you feel like a fraud in creative or professional situations? Do you ever think you don't deserve a promotion, an award or compliment? If yes, you're in the right club and you're not alone - the club of women struggling with the Impostor Syndrome.
Impostor Syndrome is that vague yet overwhelming feeling of self-doubt, anxiety and angst. The good thing about this club is that most of the women you look up to feel the same way too. You just don't see it because you're focused on your own feelings of inadequacy. Hence our earlier statement, you are in very good company.
Dr. Valerie Young, a victim of the Impostor Syndrome and a self-acclaimed recovering impostor, decided to study the topic to help herself and other women like us. She is an author and a leading expert on the Impostor syndrome epidemic.
In her book, she delivers tools, insight and information to overcome the impostor syndrome by finding its source right from childhood and other earlier memories. She cited some causes of the impostor syndrome as the absence of praise during childhood. For each person, it might take a lifetime to uncover and recover from the roots of impostor feelings. This usually leads to the difficulty in outgrowing the need for external acknowledgment and approval.
According to Dr. Young, you have a choice to allow your secret fears stand between you and your goals or you can channel your energy into trying to understand and overcome them. Her book gives an alternative way of thinking about yourself and your competence.
Chapters in the book include:
- What Do Luck, Timing, Connections and Personality Really Have to do With Success?
- The Competence Rule Book for Mere Mortals
- Responding to Failure, Mistakes and Criticism
- Is it 'Fear' of Success or Something Else
- Why 'Fake it Till You Make it' is Harder for Women and Why You Must
Every chapter of the book ends with a clear Call to Action and leads to What's Ahead.
Valerie lets us in on a little secret about Impostor Syndrome: "The Impostor Syndrome does lessen but it may never go away 100 percent."
This is in her bid to advise her readers not to feel discouraged if their impostor feelings still lurk on. Battling the Impostor Syndrome is a gradual and lifelong process. The best thing you can do is to acknowledge the impostor feelings, admit when you feel them and still go ahead to be successful and awesome at all you desire to do.
You can purchase the book here on Amazon.
Submitted by: Kelechi
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