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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.

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The Holiday Gift of Peace and Quiet

Every year my children and grandchildren ask me what I want for Christmas and every year I tell them the same thing: All I want for Christmas is peace and quiet. They always laugh and then struggle to find me just the right gift, but in all actuality, it is peace and quiet during the holidays that I crave most. If only that one simple thing could be given.

Whether you are celebrating Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas or something else this holiday season, I think we could all agree that if only we could have a simple day of peace and quiet to be reflective, appreciative and to simply be in the moment...for several moments...the holidays would mean so much more in our hearts and our souls.

It seems stores have holiday tunes playing and shelves stocked for profitable success even before we have time to hide our kids' Halloween candy away. How are we to find that down time to really enjoy the season when it's go-go-go from November 1st on?

In my house at least, it seems that the expected stress of preparing a traditional Thanksgiving feast for my family starts to take hold as soon as I see the holiday decorations in the stores. Mentally, my brain is saying, "You have to get through Thanksgiving first!" And thus, it begins: the creation of the menu, the making of the to-do list and the to-buy list, the grocery shopping, the sweating and stressing...and the wine...oh, yes and don't forget to buy the wine! You might just need it.

After everyone has eaten their fill and you have put away all the leftovers that will inevitably will be taken out again in two hours, you wash the dishes and put out the desserts for the eat-and-clean scenario to begin again!

Just moments after the dust has settled from the big meal-it's on to the next major holiday! You might be one of those folks who goes straight into Black Friday shopping mode or one who takes time to put your feet up and drink some wine. I sincerely hope it's the latter because we deserve that!

Once you get to Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas or your favorite holiday, the only thing you might need is just what I ask for every year—peace and quiet. For me, it's something I have to create and it sure isn't easy to do that sometimes when you have so much going on.

Some of the things I have done are to go to a local church for services or just to a local church to stop in and pray. I have read inspirational short stories and journaled my thoughts of gratitude. One time I sat on a park bench in the middle of a snowstorm because it was so wonderfully and beautifully quiet that I could close my eyes and hear the snow hitting the ground. There is something so peaceful about these quiet moments and it seems they are entirely too rare from October through December.

No matter what holiday you celebrate, I hope you are able to find the peace, quiet and joy in it this holiday season.

"Finding some quiet time in your life, I think, is hugely important." -- Mariel Hemingway

Written by: T.E.Bush

"Still ours the dance, the feast, the glorious Psalm,
The mystic lights of emblem, and the Word."
~Emma Lazarus, "The Feast of Lights"
"He who has not Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree."
~Roy L. Smith

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