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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.

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Accepting Your Independence

July marks the 149th anniversary of the enactment of Canada's constitution and is celebrated as Canada Day on July 1st. Just across the border on July 4 in America, they will celebrate the 240th anniversary of Declaration of Independence. Both holidays have many similarities and both countries celebrate with family, food, fun and festivities. The holidays are steeped in time-honored traditions and celebrate one thing that is paramount to a life of fulfillment-independence. What does independence mean to you?

When I was growing up, I never thought much about independence. I was more concerned with connections and fulfilling my ultimate dream of being married and having children-you know, the whole "white picket fence" syndrome. My own personal destiny revolved around other people and defining myself as "someone else's something-or-other."

Despite having this dream of what I wanted my future to look like, when I think back on what I was like as a teenager, I really was pretty independent. I was responsible for navigating myself through school, extra-curricular activities and work seamlessly without reminders or praise and did pretty well if I do say so myself.

From the age of 20 through 28, I was immersed in living as the sole identity of "someone's wife and mother." When I decided to divorce, I also decided to take back my maiden name as a way of reclaiming not only my identity but also my long-forgotten independence.

I spent the next few years growing and learning more about myself-who was I really? What made me happy and what made me tick? I discovered I was smart, talented, capable, confident, well-spoken and determined. I realized I have the ability to do anything I choose to do. I was for lack of a better word-independent.

Independence is extremely empowering. When you realize you don't need to identify yourself as "someone's something" or by other people's ideals and standards, it is an unmistakably euphoric discovery-and one everyone can strive to realize.

My path of independence led me to attend college for the first time-with two small children in tow-at the age of 31 as a single parent. I eventually worked through four degrees, including my master's degree. It was a long independent journey, with little help from anyone else and one I am extremely proud of. For you, it could be anything that makes you feel like you can stand proudly on your own two feet and I hope we all find our own independence.

Independence, however, is nothing without acceptance. You have to accept that you can do it-whatever that it happens to be-and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about it except you. You have to accept that taking chances means you could fail, but even if you do, you accept that getting back up and doing it again is far better than not trying at all. Getting to your own independence is no walk the park-it certainly wasn't for me-but the celebration will be so worth it!

I wish you love, acceptance and independence on Canada Day, Independence Day, and every day. Happy July!

"Independence is happiness." --Susan B. Anthony

Written by: T.E.Bush

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