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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.

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At the Heart of Valentine's Day: Loving Yourself

Whether you have a sweetie or not, there's something truly magical about Valentine's Day. It's full of delectable confections, flowers and professions of love, or at the very least the thought of--and eternal hope for--love.

And isn't love, in its most basic form, what we all want for ourselves and others?

When I was married, for eight years in my 20's, Valentine's Day was a bona fide letdown. My ex-husband was about as romantic as a presenting a woman a wet sponge cake and a vacuum cleaner for her birthday. I learned not to expect much and was never disappointed.

It wasn't until I had been happily divorced a few years that I set out on a quest to get to know and love myself. I will not lie. It takes a lot of continuous, focused work to accomplish this necessary and worthwhile life task. Even after two decades, it is always a work in progress.

Some of the many tools I've used have included: reading introspective self-help books, listening to empowering music by female artists, connecting to nature and faith in my own ways and finding simple things that bring me an internal peace and joy.

In doing these things, I was able to transform Valentine's Day from the often unrealistic expectation of others to the guaranteed promises I would make to myself. No longer would I sit idly by waiting for flowers to arrive at my door from a secret admirer or the phone to ring with an invitation to a romantic candle-lit dinner.

No--Valentine's Day would be about something greater than waiting on someone else to fulfill my dreams. At first, I had a hard time making Valentine's Day about me. That came in time. But for years my Valentine's Day mission of love was focused toward my grandmother, who was then in her late 70's.

My grandmother had always been the kind of woman who emphatically stated that when she passed, she wanted to be buried in a pine box with no calling hours and no flowers. Her astute reasoning was that if people couldn't make the effort to see her when she was alive, they sure as heck weren't going to look at her when she was dead! And what good would lovely flowers be to her, she asked, when she was not alive to enjoy them? My Gram had some sass.

Her point was aptly made and for many years before her passing, she was "my Valentine." Every year, I doted on her with much-deserved love and accolades, chocolates and fresh flowers. She scoffed at first, asking me why I was wasting my money on her. I said, "It's not wasted, Gram. You're here to enjoy them now and you deserve them. You are my Valentine."

And so she was for many years. After her passing, I was able to become my own Valentine. The things I now do for myself vary from buying flowers or expensive chocolates (we are worth more than milk chocolate) to treating myself to a pedicure, haircut or massage. I have gone to new restaurants, ordered a fancy drink and dinner--and enjoyed every sip and morsel by myself. Why? Because I can and because I have worked hard to love myself. I am my own Valentine today and every day. I encourage all of us to do something special for yourself this Valentine's Day and every chance you get.

"Love yourself first and everything else falls line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." -Lucille Ball

Written by: T.E.Bush

"If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand."
~Author Unknown
"Where there is love, there is life."
~Mahatma Gandhi

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