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Health at Every Size - these are the buzz words around the internet these days. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier?

What is health? The World Health Organization defined health in its broader sense in 1946 as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". Being healthier doesn't mean losing weight. To you it might mean:

We are very happy to announce that we have a Registered Dietician on staff who will be writing our Health At Every Size series as well as answering a reader's question each month. You can read about Shari's philosophy and experience on our staff page. If you have a question for Shari, please email us at

Disclaimer: This advice is not intended to be a substitute for, nor does it replace, professional medical, health or nutritional advice.

This holiday season, put yourself first!

Most articles on how to deal with festivities will encourage you to 'avoid going to parties on an empty stomach' or 'choose smaller portion sizes' or 'find time to be active'. While all these recommendations do have some value, it may not be easy to put them into practice because so many of us, women, are always trying to please everyone first.

Remember that piece of cake you didn't feel like eating but ended up doing so anyway just to avoid hurting grandma's feelings? Or that party you went to just so others wouldn't give you a hard time?

So this holiday, what I suggest is that you prioritize yourself, your needs and your wants. Why? Well, for long term success with health goals, claiming time for YOUR objectives will help you be more productive and effective in your life. And making your well being a priority will prevent your health and mood from going down the drain. Guess who'll be more fun to be around?

'But won't that make me selfish?'
Not at all! And I'm not saying this just to make you feel good: when you're thriving, you'll function at a higher level and you'll automatically model quality self-care for your loved ones. See? Taking care of yourself is a win-win situation.

I'm not saying you shouldn't spend time with those you care for just because you don't like the activities they have planned. Let's say your loved ones want to go swimming in the lake and that's not your thing. Do you think simply being with them and seeing them happy will make YOU happy? Then go out with a positive mindset. Next time, if they invite you to some comedy show and you just hate the stuff, then be frank about it. If they truly care about you, they'll understand and support you for putting yourself first.

'So how do I put myself first?'
Simply do things that make YOU happy and avoid those that make you unhappy. You could start by making a happiness list including, let's say, 5 activities that make you happy. Then, write down the last time you did those activities. Now, check to see if there's anything you either can't remember doing or haven't done in a few months - put that thing on your 'priority to-do' list.

You could also list things you usually do that involve putting yourself last. For instance, it could be you hate attending family reunions because there's always someone to bring you down with unhelpful advice. So, this year, instead of going to these gatherings, maybe you could plan a vacation with only those close to your heart instead.

Or check out the tiara article I wrote earlier this year.

Make this holiday season one of inspiration and possibility. Open the doors to a healthier, happier and shinier version of yourself by focusing on the queen you are.

Submitted by: Shari

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