Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance
Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.
Things you can do every day to boost your body image:
- Move your body by doing activities you love
- think of one thing you body did for you today
- compliment yourself
- smile at yourself in the mirror
- wear clothes that fit you well and make you happy, regardless of their size
This July, Declare Independence from your Inner Bully!
Sometimes the biggest obstacle on the path to self acceptance is an inner bully. An inner bully is a negative force that lives in the subconscious and destroys acceptance and esteem with criticism and hate. This bully knows your weaknesses and will strike when you are at your lowest point. You're ugly. You're stupid. Your work is mediocre. You'll never be good enough. Maybe you've heard these in your own mind before. This is an inner bully and you owe it to yourself to stifle them.
Try some of the following suggestions to banish your inner bully:
- Confrontation. This can be a very hard task to complete when an inner bully has been breaking you down. Next time you hear negative chatter in your mind, tell it to stop! This doesn't have to be done aloud, just say it in your head. Tell it to stop and replace the negative statements with positive ones.
- Use a journal. Once a day write down all that you have accomplished and take time to appreciate yourself for meeting goals.
- Accept credit when given compliments from others. Don't let your inner bully discredit your contributions; the person wouldn't be giving you a compliment if you didn't deserve it.
- Make a list of everything you like about yourself. This can be physical, mental, emotional, or anything you want. Post it somewhere you will see it regularly or better yet - make copies and keep one at home, one at work, and one in your purse. Whenever your inner bully comes out, read through the list and shut that bully up!
- Remember the "golden rule": Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Now reverse that thinking. You don't bully others, do you? Why would you do it to yourself, then? Imagine that someone else were in your situation and treat yourself as you would treat them.
- Relax. When stress is high, the inner bully has an open door to walk through. Shut that door by practicing some stress relieving techniques. Yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, or a simple bubble bath with a glass of wine should do the trick.
Try some of these ideas out. After putting these practices to work, you will hear from that bully less and less as your confidence in yourself grows stronger and stronger. After some time you can replace the bully with a positive inner voice - one that appreciates your great qualities and loves you without giving criticism.
Written by: Brigid Ashling
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