Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance
Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.
Things you can do every day to boost your body image:
- Move your body by doing activities you love
- think of one thing you body did for you today
- compliment yourself
- smile at yourself in the mirror
- wear clothes that fit you well and make you happy, regardless of their size
The Most Beautiful Bride
This month I struggled to write for you. I sat with pen in hand starting at my notebook but the words would not come. I browsed the internet for inspiration but no spark could be found. I wrote in my journal, "I feel worthless and broken; How am I supposed to tell others how they should accept themselves?" To say the least - I've been feeling really low. I tried my normal pick me ups and nothing worked. My nose has been buried in Viktor Frankl trying to find a meaning and the motivation to get out of my funk. Even reading the stories of men who had endured unthinkable horrors could not move me beyond my gloomy disposition.
Social Media would be what finally broke me free. Scrolling through the page I came across a picture of a woman whom I have not seen in at least ten years. In high school she struggled. She didn't just struggle the way all high school students struggle - her life was hard. In addition to having a difficult home life she struggled with her size. In a small school with a student population of could-be models, being super-sized wasn't accepted. To make matters worse, after high school her low self-esteem led her down an even darker path than before and she entered a bad relationship. Although she was blessed with two wonderful children, her marriage failed and left her picking up her pieces.
Honestly, I haven't even thought about her in years. The day her picture popped up on my Facebook feed I was flabbergasted. There she stood; donned in a beautiful gown, smiling the most genuine smile I have ever seen. Beside her stood a man who gazed adoringly at her while holding then hand of one of her children. A quick browse through her page told me a story of a woman reborn. She had picked herself up by the proverbial bootstraps and got her life together. She has a career she loves and gives her life meaning. Her children have prospered from her nurturing and thrive in school and friendships. After building up a secure and wonderful individual life, love found her. He is a man who is humble, hardworking, and loving. She didn't have to change for him, he loves her for who is she is and finds her beautiful inside and out.
Inspiration, like love, sometimes comes at the most unexpected times. When logging into Facebook I didn't anticipate leaving my desk feeling hopeful and optimistic but that is just what happened. That day I wrote in my journal, "Funny how it can be the smallest things that put things into perspective. If she can pick herself up and find such a great level of happiness, maybe there is hope for me after all." I printed out her picture and pasted it on the facing page. Below it I wrote, "The Most Beautiful Bride".
Written by: Brigid Ashling
SSBBWs to blog about their lives each month...
My vision with this magazine is to let you know that you are not alone. There are other SSBBWs around the world with the same issues, thoughts, worries and joys as you have. Whether you have accepted your weight and love your body, whether you are actively working to lose weight or whether you want to get healthier and have more mobility but don't know where to start, you are not alone.
Whether you are single or in a relationship, have children or not, work or are unemployed, housebound or relatively mobile, healthy or have medical issues, you are not alone.
Let's band together and share our stories, our triumphs and our pain. Click here to view this months blogs.
"Be like the flower, turn your face to the sun."
"Breathless, we flung us on a windy hill, laughed in the sun, and kissed the lovely grass."