Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance
Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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Self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now, including all the elements that you want to change.
Things you can do every day to boost your body image:
- Move your body by doing activities you love
- think of one thing you body did for you today
- compliment yourself
- smile at yourself in the mirror
- wear clothes that fit you well and make you happy, regardless of their size
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My vision with this magazine is to let you know that you are not alone. There are other SSBBWs around the world with the same issues, thoughts, worries and joys as you have. Whether you have accepted your weight and love your body, whether you are actively working to lose weight or whether you want to get healthier and have more mobility but don't know where to start, you are not alone.
Whether you are single or in a relationship, have children or not, work or are unemployed, housebound or relatively mobile, healthy or have medical issues, you are not alone.
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The Acceptance of Others Begins with Us
There was a news story recently out of Texas. A woman visiting Six Flags over Texas with her young children was riding a roller coaster when the safety bar came unlocked and she tragically plunged to her death, as her children helplessly watched. I was reading a lot of stories, trying to figure out what had happened, and I saw a trend developing that really bothered me.
Many of the stories contained a picture of the woman - who's name I won't mention here because I have not asked permission of her family to write this piece - and she was a lovely bigger woman with a sweet smile and kind eyes. The comments on many of the versions of this tragic story were despicable. I'm going to quote a few:
"Someone who is so obviously obese has no business being at a theme park anyway; it's not safe for them to ride anything at all."
"She was probably one of those people who rides around on a motorized cart all day and then complains that she's too fat to ride the rides!"
"People need to realize that roller coasters are built for thin people; fat people should just stay home."
"In my opinion, Six Flags Over Texas is not responsible; the woman was obviously too fat for the bar to lock and she rode the ride anyway."
Now, out of all these horrendous comments, there was only one that I did not find offensive and disgusting. A woman, who, judging by her photo is a gorgeous SSBBW like us, commented:
"When are the manufacturers of theater seats, amusement park rides, booths in restaurants and airplane seats going to realize that people in general are larger these days? Why is fat discrimination still so rampant in this country, and why do we allow it to occur? Face it folks, we're here, we're fat - get used to it!"
In a world of super-size everything, there are many things that have not kept up to accommodate those of us who were not born into a size 5 body. It is time for people to wake up and smell the coffee. I don't consider my size to be a hindrance, just as I'm sure that mother of two didn't either, which is why she was trying to simply enjoy a day at an amusement park with her children. Since when did that become a crime that results in people basically stating that she was asking for it to happen?
We SSBBW's (And SSBBM's too, for that matter) need to make our voices heard. I am an active, healthy woman who happens to have an outer shell that isn't simply a sheath over a set of bones. I love my curves, and the people who are important in my life love me as I am and wouldn't have me any other way. We need to begin to love and accept ourselves - once we do that, we will all have the courage to take a stand and tell the world that we're not going anywhere. To quote that lone courageous poster, "We're here, we're fat - get used to it!"
Written by: Angie Yoder
"Be like the flower, turn your face to the sun."
"Breathless, we flung us on a windy hill, laughed in the sun, and kissed the lovely grass."