Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance
Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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My vision with this magazine is to let you know that you are not alone. There are other SSBBWs around the world with the same issues, thoughts, worries and joys as you have. Whether you have accepted your weight and love your body, whether you are actively working to lose weight or whether you want to get healthier and have more mobility but don't know where to start, you are not alone.
Whether you are single or in a relationship, have children or not, work or are unemployed, housebound or relatively mobile, healthy or have medical issues, you are not alone.
Let's band together and share our stories, our triumphs and our pain. Click here to view this months blogs.
If Sue, the editor of SSBBW Magazine, will indulge me and let me go off topic for a bit, I would like to. I recently had an experience on Continental Airlines that I would like to share. For details of what happened, please see my blog. [ Click here to view this months blogs.]
It doesn’t matter how you look or feel. You can be confident and look like a million bucks and one incident will make you feel like you are 10 years old, on the school playground, and being picked on for being fat.
I am 40 years old. When is the bullying and prejudice going to stop? Probably not in my lifetime, but I would like to think that one day it will happen. I believe someone on that flight crew was having a bad day. It became their mission to make sure mine was worse. Well, they succeeded. Continental made sure that everyone on that plane noticed me AND hated me. Hated me for being an inconvenience, hated me for holding up the plane, hated me for being fat.
A plus size friend of mine had a similar problem at LAX and with Southwest Airlines last year. I have lived in the city of Los Angeles. Believe me, I know they aren’t ready for what I am selling. It goes against everything most strive for out there…young, thin, perfect. It is everywhere you look and everywhere you go. If you haven’t been tucked, peeled, bleached, straightened, you just aren’t valid or beautiful.
What if I am ok with being fat? What if I am (dare I say it?) happy with being fat? I don’t hate myself, society makes me hate myself. When I think back to my younger years and remember noticing beautiful women for the first time, they weren’t thin. They were curvy…had hips and a butt, had boobs….they looked like WOMEN! I have always noticed curvier women before I have noticed other women. Not that I am saying there is anything wrong with thin women, because there isn’t. And I do think you can find beauty in *most* people. I am just saying that my preference, and the woman that I wanted to be like, was curvy.
One of the reasons I like being the size I am and who I am is that it does set me apart. I have never, ever, in my whole life wanted to be part of the sheeple. In my mind, I am a star. When I walk into a room, people notice me. Love me or hate me, they do have an opinion about me. When a normal, average person walks in, do you think anyone really notices? I don’t think so. Again, nothing wrong with that. Some people want to blend in, be part of the background. I just happen to not want that for myself.
I probably sound like I am talking out of both sides of my mouth. I want people to notice me, have an opinion about me, but not act on it in a negative way. That last bit is the key, which is where prejudice and bullying come in. People can and will have varying opinions on me and everyone else. As long as I am not breaking any laws or doing anything illegal, I should be allowed to just “be”. Be fat, be tall, be short, be old, be young, be of a different race, be of a different religion, just be…..
Written by: Nikki Langston
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