Information and rants about living in the real world as an SSBBW

As SSBBWs, we live in a world built for smaller people. Each day we face challenges to fit in, or even to just fit. While education and information are powerful tools, our best resource is each other. Let us know your tips or rants about this subject at

My vision with this magazine is to let you know that you are not alone. There are other SSBBWs around the world with the same issues, thoughts, worries and joys as you have. Whether you have accepted your weight and love your body, whether you are actively working to lose weight or whether you want to get healthier and have more mobility but don't know where to start, you are not alone.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, have children or not, work or are unemployed, housebound or relatively mobile, healthy or have medical issues, you are not alone.

Let's band together and share our stories, our triumphs and our pain.

Blogger: Sue
Weight: 345 lbs
Location: Ontario, Canada
Single, self employed 48 year old. No children. Relatively mobile

So I saw a doctor in the weight management clinic at the hospital. After going through a lengthly questionnaire she told me that my biggest problem was my hanging belly and the fact that it was reducing blood flow to my legs and causing the water retention. She has referred me to one of their surgeons to have the belly removed. I said I thought I needed to lose more weight before they would do that surgery but she indicated that as long as your weight had stablized for a year after weight loss surgery you were eligible. I may have to pay some of the cost but I'll find the money for that. I'm stil waiting to hear for my first appointment with the surgeon.

I also met with their nutritionist who told me that I wasn't eating enough protein or fibre. I have to increase my protein to at least 68grams per day and my fibre to 14-25 grams per day.

Blogger: Ms Christine H
Weight: 334 lbs
Location: Pennsylvania, USA
Single, employed full time 46 year old with mobility.

There is a horrible billboard on my way home from work. I have to see it every day. At first I thought it was for personal awareness, but then I realized what it really was. It reads, "Love the you Within". And there are 2 pics of the same women. 1 fat & 1 smaller. It is an advertisement for weight loss surgery. Every time I see it it makes me sick to my stomach. It is sad what we allow ourselves to experience. Although that billboard has me nauseated, I know there are women out there thinking that is the answer to loving yourself. I can not tell you how many women I have tried to help understand that no matter what size you are, if you don't love yourself, you won't love yourself. Acceptance is hard, takes lots of work, but it is worth it. Love yourself regardless of your size and you will always love yourself.

Blogger: Linda
Weight: 400 lbs
Location: Manitoba, Canada
Single 50 year old on disability, uses walker or power wheelchair.

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  Blogger: Nikki
Weight: 415 lbs
Location: Texas, USA
40 year old in a relationship. She works and is mobile.

If you focus on what you donít have, you will get depressed.
If you focus on what you do have, you realize you are blessed.

I heard that saying today in a religious context.† I am not overly religious, although I like to think God and I have an accord.† Whatever the origin of the saying, even though it is kind of hokey, I believe it to be true.†

We had to move to Texas, from Colorado, when I was 15 years old.† My mom and step dad didnít really know what else to do.† We were bankrupt.† His family was from Texas and if we moved, his mother would help us out.† Here I am a poor, awkward, living in a trailer, chubby girl who had to raise herself (yes, the total white trash package).† I always had food, shelter, and clothes, but I was exposed to a lot of things that a child shouldnít have been exposed to and I wasnít nurtured or cared for in my spirit, body, or mind.† Moving to Texas was a blessing.† I didnít see it at the time.† I hated my life.† I didnít want to be there physically or mentally.† But, kicking and screaming the whole way, moving to Texas changed my life.† In retrospect, I was blessed.† Extremely blessed to have encountered some of the most amazing individuals; girls that would help shape me into the person that I am today.† They were the ones that taught me about right and wrong, about loving yourself, about standing up for yourself, about believing in yourself.† †† When I look at where I am right now in my life, I am not living up to my full potential.† I am capable of more, doing more and being more.† Not only am I doing myself a disservice, I am doing these wonderful women a disservice.† Not using what they taught me, all that they believe I am capable of, not doing something with my many gifts.† You have to take and go with life lessons where they present themselves.† Even though it wasnít my actual parents that did most of it, my ďfamilyĒ did raise me.† For that, I am truly blessed.†

Blogger: Ah Girl Plus Size
Weight: 95kg
Location: Singapore
Single 19 year old who is self employed and mobile.

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Blogger: Stephanie
Weight: 473lbs
Location: North Carolina, USA
43 year old single mother of three adult sons. She is an artist who is very mobile.

As I sit here typing up the note to all of you I am struck with the catch 22 many of us find ourselves now. I have been out of work for 2 years now, and have found that I can not get hired with my health issues; that without medical attention are getting worse.

I can not get that help without a job. I am watching my health deteriorate rapidly and need help but I can't seem to find any avalable. I am talented and competent but after the face to face interview everything changes. With the high cost of health care corporations are not hiring Fat people. What will we do with the "epidemic" of fat people? I am not that political but I understand those that are. I need help and none is out there. I sell my art work and do all that I can and my sons and I pool what we have but its becoming more then I can bear. I am starting the application process for Social security disability. As if I can not earn a living due to my disabilities then its time to face that I am disabled. This is a truthful thing and that scares me to death. I am just starting this and am not sure what to do, I have no medical coverage so most of my illnessess are untreated so how do I document that? Do they have Dr that check you out? This is all so new and so spooky, and there is not any help I can find that points to what to do or help I can get. So wish me luck. I must face the fact that I am not ok, and that makes me very afraid and alone.

Blogger: Courtney
Weight: 325lbs
Location: Pennsylvania, USA
21 year old unemployed college student. She is newly married and had her first child end of October.

I finally got married! In the days leading up to the nuptials my Mother in Law came to town from California to make sure we had everything we needed for the wedding. It turned out to be a beautiful ceremony and reception. It was a perfect fall day here in Pittsburgh PA.

Other than that, Iím still working on my weight issue. I feel great compared to what I did a few months ago, and dropped a ton of weight, but there is still some Iíd like to get rid of. I have so much to concentrate on right now, and sometimes Iím overwhelmed with too much. There is a lot of responsibility on my shoulders right now, and Iím just not sure I can do it all at once. I guess I canít be Superwoman!

My birthday is also coming up in early December, and honestly Iím not that excited. I guess Iíve just been concentrating on my daughter so much that I donít really think much about me anymore. I guess thatís what motherhood is all about. I should try to have some ďMEĒ time, but I just canít see doing that especially with everything else Iím trying to accomplish. Along with all of that I still have the Holidays to look forward to, too much happening too fast!

Looking for more SSBBWs to blog about their lives each month...

We are looking for SSBBWs from all walks of life and from around the world to write a few paragraphs each month to show us that what they are going through is what we are going through. Did you overcome some obstacle? Did you get laughed at or made fun of in public? Did you feel depressed? Did something change your view of yourself?

We can make your blog anonymous or post your name and/or picture, it's your choice. If you are interested, please send us an email to and tell us a bit about yourself, why you'd be a great fit for this new feature and a sample paragraph.

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