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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.

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Slave to the Scales

I keep preaching on here, and especially on this page, about self-acceptance. I am learning the past little while that the path to self-acceptance is a long and winding road.

I have been exercising and seeing a personal trainer. I have a new nutritionist and have been working hard on eating better things for myself. I am noticing that I walk easier, I sleep easier, I even do housework easier. But the scales tell me I've not lost any weight and I cry. Why am I a slave to those damned scales. Everyone tells me to keep away from them. That my body is the best gauge to being healthy. But I just can't help myself.

This week I was doing great. I worked out twice with the trainer and once on my own. When I walked to my car or the laundry room I made sure I walked as fast as I could. I ate my vegies and fruit and minimized the carbs I usually eat. Friday morning came around and I woke feeling that I'd had the best week. Then I stepped on the scales. And my world went to hell. I had gained 1/2 lb. Yea, I know, 1/2 a pound ain't much and it may just be muscle or water and the logical part of me knows this. But that emotional bit of me, that which is so very dominant over the logical side, cried. And then my body cried for junk food. Thankfully I had none in the house but vegies and protein shakes be damned, I had bread for breakfast!!! And all was right with the world, at least until my breakfast was finished.

My mother said to stay away from the scales for a few weeks. My perhaps not so logical thinking told me though that I'd be even more depressed if I worked hard at being healthy for two whole weeks and then the scale still said the same thing. Better to be let down in small doses I say! And there goes that negative thinking again ... let down. Why should the scale have so much power over me? Arrggg!!!

Written and submitted by: Sue Carter

SSBBW Magazine is sponsoring a child...

World VisionMatetaThrough World Vision Canada, SSBBW Magazine is sponsoring 5 year old Mateta Nsimba from Democratic Republic of Congo. Mateta Nsimba was born the same month as our magazine (February). Mateta lives with her parents in a poor area. Her father is self-employed but his earnings are barely enough to provide for his family. Her mother stays at home caring for her family. As we receive updates on Mateta Nsimba we will post them here for all of you. If you want to help towards the cost of sponsorship or to help us purchase gifts for other communities in need around the world be it water filters, goats, or even soccer balls then please click on the PayPal button below.

Each month we'll list those who contributed to this great cause. If you do not wish your name to be posted please email us at Thank you.

October 2009 - Thank you to Mary C. for her donation of $20 towards our sponsored child.

November 2009 UPDATE - We received a letter from Mateta,

"Dear Sponsor,

Thank you for accepting me as your sponsored girl. I am Nsimba Mateta, I live with my parents, my brothers and my sister. I like eating chicken with rice and playing with my dolls. As I can't yet write a letter by myself, Mu. Lucien Pongo, member of the local structure of management has helped me but I make a drawing for you. How do you like it? Looking forward to hearing from you soon.
Your sponsored girl, Nsimba Mateta

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