Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance
Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.
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I have struggled with my weight my whole life, and have suffered the indignities and cruel comments that all of us that don’t conform to the “standard” size have to put up with. I managed to lose 3 and a half stone about 10 years ago, and enjoyed for short while being able to buy clothes on the high street. Now due to my age, and a new relationship with someone who actually enjoys my curves have put almost all of it back on.
I now find myself back where I was, unable to find any clothes (apart from what I can only call matronly) that fit me. As almost 50% of the women in the UK are over size 16 why is this still the case? We all know that when the sales come there are rails and rails of size 10/12 left over where size 16+ clothes are sold almost as soon as they go on the shelf! Why can’t the retailers see that there is a huge lucrative market out there for curvy women who want to dress like everyone else, not forced to shop in “specialized” outlets?
I have been so brain-washed by the media that I still find it hard to accept that my partner loves me the way I am, and still feel pressure to lose weight. I would love to change the way I think but am afraid that after so many years of “conditioning” this may not be achievable. I envy those of you who have managed to change their mind set and would love to know how you did it!
Written and submitted by: Kaz
Sometimes when I'm sitting watching a tv health show that deals with an overweight person I cannot help but laugh. These hosts, producers, etc. just don't get it.
I just watched a show (which I won't name) that had a 375 lbs woman who said she was a food addict. Fair enough ... I know where she is coming from ... I'm a food addict myself. So the host then shows her a table full of healthy foods and said you need to eat every 3 hours but eat a moderate amount of healthy food. Easier said than done when you are talking to a food addict. Then a therapist chimes in and says when you get a craving wait 10-15 minutes before listening to it. Think about what you are thinking and feeling that is giving you this craving. Do something to distract you like riding a bike. HAHAHAHA Ride a bike? Are you crazy? I haven't been near a bike for years. The bike would probably take one look at me walking, nay waddling, towards it and the tires would burst and it would fall apart.
So then the host, that cute little naive man, said here's what else you can do when you get these cravings and uncovers a plate of chocolate and some graham cookies. And then, this unknowing host said "just have a bite and that will take away the craving". HAHAHAHA ... and again HAHAHAHA ... a bite?!? Is he serious? Here is a self admitted food addict who loves (with a capital L O V E) cookies and sweets. Can you really just eat one bite? I couldn't. No way, no how.
I stopped buying cookies along time ago because I'd open the bag and eat them all the same day. My mother, again a tad naive but I love her anyway, would say just take out a few cookies and hide the bag. My sister who shares my addiction would stare at her and blink a few times and then say, "but I know where I hid them!!". And they talk to you. You hide them away and then in the evening, especially during tv commecials (I'm sure they listen and wait) you hear these little voices, "eat me! I'm good and will make you feel so good". Yep, noisy food. I try to keep the noisy foods out of my home. Doesn't always work but I'm getting better.
Anyway, happy new year and all my best for 2010. And remember, diet is a four-letter word.
Written by: Sue Carter, Managing Editor, SSBBW Magazine
SSBBW Magazine is sponsoring a child...
Through World Vision Canada, SSBBW Magazine is sponsoring 5 year old Mateta Nsimba from Democratic Republic of Congo. Mateta Nsimba was born the same month as our magazine (February). Mateta lives with her parents in a poor area. Her father is self-employed but his earnings are barely enough to provide for his family. Her mother stays at home caring for her family. As we receive updates on Mateta Nsimba we will post them here for all of you. If you want to help towards the cost of sponsorship or to help us purchase gifts for other communities in need around the world be it water filters, goats, or even soccer balls then please click on the PayPal button below.
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- "Having traveled with World Vision to Africa, I've seen the difference these gifts can make. The impact on children and families is truly immeasurable. Please consider making a difference in the lives of people who truly need our help, because you can trust me, it's worth every penny."- Tom Cochrane, Singer
October 2009 - Thank you to Mary C. for her donation of $20 towards our sponsored child.
November 2009 UPDATE - We received a letter from Mateta,
Thank you for accepting me as your sponsored girl. I am Nsimba Mateta, I live with my parents, my brothers and my sister. I like eating chicken with rice and playing with my dolls. As I can't yet write a letter by myself, Mu. Lucien Pongo, member of the local structure of management has helped me but I make a drawing for you. How do you like it? Looking forward to hearing from you soon.
Your sponsored girl, Nsimba Mateta
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