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Hey there everyone. I'm Gabby and I'm going to be taking your questions now. I hope I can be of help to all you amazing readers, so please don't hesitate to let me know what is bothering you.

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Dear Gabby,

My question is what to do about my friend's new girlfriend. Jake and I have been friends since we were 9 (I'm now 22). His past girlfriends have all been okay with (I don't think they were threatened by me because of my weight) but his new one "Katie" seems real uncomfortable around me and even Jake has noticed. I don't want to lose my friend - help what should I do?

Signed: Broken Third Wheel

Hey Broken,

I'm real sorry, honey, but there may be nothing you can do. If you have tried and failed to make her less uncomfortable then try and trust that your friendship with Jake is strong enough that eventually it will all work out.

If you are with the two of them alot try giving them time on their own. If you can, see Jake when he is not with Katie. So many people, when they are in a new relationship, tend to bypass their old friends - most probably aren't even aware that they do it, they're just so wrapped up in the new person.

Talk to Jake about it (if you guys are good at talking). Just try not to be judgemental or defensive. He's going to be the guy in the middle.

I've seen these things go both ways so I'll be hoping for the good way for you.

Take care, Love, Gabby

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