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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.

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Don't think about the Pink Elephant's February coming up. And we all know what that means. Valentine's Day. The day guaranteed to make many of us miserable. I could tell you not to think about it, but that's like someone telling you not to think about a pink elephant. All of a sudden elephants are wandering through your minds at all times of the day and night!

You can't really avoid Valentine's Day either. It's such a commercial enterprise these days that there are flowers and chocolates and teddy bears EVERYWHERE. Last year I mentioned that it was probably a great day to take yourself on a "me-date" and do all of the lovely things you have always wanted to do. But the reality is we're not all single.

Sure - some of us are partnered. But that's still no guarantee we're not going to be miserable. I know when I was in a relationship sometimes I would still be jealous of other couples who looked happier, or skinner, or more attractive, or more in love.

It was stupid but human beings can't help but compare! So we'd go out to a nice restaurant and I was too busy gazing past my lover's head, wondering if we were in some way both being judged - since we were both fat.

It's true that many people buy into the stereotype that fat people are lonely, or have no lovers, or only date other people their own size and I was mortified sometimes that my partner and I did seem to at least partly fit what people thought. "Look at those two - I bet they lay in bed eating ice-cream" - this is what I imagined some folk were saying to each other.

So this year my challenge to you is - upset the stereotypes. Even if you have to fake it. Don't fade into the wallpaper or try and hide. If you have a partner go out proudly and stage a fake marriage proposal. Draw attention to yourselves. Confront people who stare. If you're single convince a friend to go out with you as a date and have a great time. Bonus points if you have a friend who happens to be a supermodel or some other ridiculous stereotype - get them to take you out and fawn over you like the goddess you are.

Make people scratch their heads and question their assumptions. Double Dare You.

Written by: Jody

"Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart."
~Author Unknown

"You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip. "
~Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"

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