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Hey there everyone. I'm Gabby and I'm going to be taking your questions now. I hope I can be of help to all you amazing readers, so please don't hesitate to let me know what is bothering you.

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Dear Gabby

I've lost about 50 lbs in the last six months. It's been extremely hard to keep up with the willpower but I don't want to give up. My best friend, however, seems to want me to. She keeps suggesting we go out to buffets and fast food places and she doesn't want to listen when I need to talk about how hard it is sometimes. I don't want to lose her friendship. How do I get her on board with my journey?

Signed, Lost on the Tracks

First, Lost, congrats on dropping 50 lbs. That's huge (no pun intended).

Your friend is probably unsure about your friendship now that you are doing something strictly for yourself. She may feel like she won't fit in with your new healthy lifestyle. She may want to shed some weight herself but is not in the right head space so feels bad that she can't do it but you can. There could be a whole bunch of reasons why she is doing wht she is doing to you. She may not even be aware that she is doing it.

If the two of you talk well to each other then talk to her. Let her know how you feel and let her know how important she is to you. Suggest some activities (that don't include food) that you can do together.

Hopefully she will meet you at least 1/3 of the way. If she doesn't then you will probably continue to drift apart and you may find yourself on a totally new trip with new companions. Whatever happens, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF!!!

Take care, Love, Gabby

And as a side note to all my readers .... HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!! and remember moderation in everything, except fun.

Disclaimer: This advice is for fun and entertainment purposes only. It should not replace the advice of a qualified professional.

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