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Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.

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The Monster is in the House with You!

Well, with Halloween coming up I started thinking about witches, and horrors, and nightmares and how it all relates to stereotypes of size and looks. Like witches are normally ugly, and aged. And fat is ugly and scary and can be used to indicate someone gross, unclean, monster like. Itís so depressing.

You even look at some of the movies out there and it gets no better. Eddie Murphy in fat suits. Toni Collette, putting on weight for movie roles like Murielís Wedding and In her Shoes. Gwyneth and the fat suit for Shallow Hal. Sigh. Why couldnít these movies have starred real women of size. Why when the women were interviewed afterwards was it all about how it felt to be so grotesque and overweight?

What I realised though is that itís all a matter of perception. If I find something disturbing to read, or watch, or some stupid person online insulting BBW or SSBBW then I just need to STOP READING it. Donít watch movies that are going to make your blood boil.

Thatís what I mean by my title. The monster of self-doubt and judgement lives with you when you keep exposing yourself to unsupportive people. Donít get me wrong Ė Iím not saying you should block anyone that wants to talk to you about your health or your weight. Everyone can be healthier if they want Ė at any size. Those are the messages you should allow in.

Instead Iím suggesting that you seek out the opposite message to balance the magazines. Seek out the BBW dating websites and chat rooms and magazines. Read good blogs from women of size. My fave blog at the moment is - Big Fat Deal.

Just to prove I also take my own advice - I just signed up to a few BBW sites like BBWDating and BBWCupid. Itís such a relief not to have to start each conversation with a potential date online by mentioning your body and Iím trying to feel positive about it all.

Written by: Jody

"Hold on, man. We don't go anywhere with "scary," "spooky," "haunted," or "forbidden" in the title."
~From Scooby-Doo

"One need not be a chamber to be haunted;
One need not be a house;
The brain has corridors surpassing
Material place."
~Emily Dickinson

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