AN SSBBWs WORLD
Information and rants about living in the real world as an SSBBW
As SSBBWs, we live in a world built for smaller people. Each day we face challenges to fit in, or even to just fit. While education and information are powerful tools, our best resource is each other. Let us know your tips or rants about this subject at email@example.com.
Each month we will profile an SSBBW to help inspire those SSBBWs who haven't yet gotten that they are wonderful, caring, sexy, special people. We are always looking for more great and wonderful SSBBWs that feel they can be an inspiration to others to be profiled. Send us a mail if you are interested!!
This month we have a special profile. Ceci, featued below, who found love last year. Click here to read her profile.
Yes, Virginia, you can find love....
This month is Valentines Day, the day on which lovers express their love for each other; sending Valentine's cards, writing love notes, buying flowers or gifting candy. The thought of Valentine's Day conjures up romantic evenings, a candlelight dinner, and long walks with your loved one. It is, without a doubt the most romantic day of the year.
Many large women, unfortunately, think that they will forever be alone and that no one will ever find them attractive or fall in love with them. One of our missions each month is to show SSBBWs and even BBWs that being overweight doesn't mean you have to give things up and that you can be happy and healthy. As part of our Valentines issue we want to show you a couple who met online last year and found love. The female will be profiled in our SSBBW profile section and the male will be profiled in the FA profile section. We'll also have each of them tell their own version of their "love story" below.
Our couple is Dargan and Cecilia, who met online in November 2006, fell in love and got married last month.
"I guess you could say that our relationship started like a lot do these days. Dar and I met online, chatting on Yahoo messenger. It was November 2006, and I had just joined a new group, FAs for Homebound SSBBW's, and was getting to know my new groupies. By that time, I had accepted the fact that I would remain single, and really was not looking for any romantic connections.
I hear that is how it happens, when you give up, then you find what you need. So I suppose that is why we met. I was just talking to my friends and a new window pops up, introducing me to "llandrian_prince". To this day, I have no idea why I responded. I had been getting messages from those jerks that want to talk sex, and I was tired of dealing with it. I had already iggyed 2 of those dorks that day. But something told me to talk to this new person, and I am forever grateful to that angel leaning over my shoulder whispering to give this person a chance.
It was amazing how fast we connected. Within minutes I felt a connection I had never felt before, and what started as a brief convo turned into 4 hours of discussion, a discussion I did not want to end. One day turned into one week, and soon we were discussing meeting and possibly a serious commitment.
I will admit, I was skeptical at first. How could this guy be so perfect?? We seemed to be saying the same thing, and at times we typed the same. We found it spooky, but soon we were both ready to accept the possibility of this being real. My skepticism didn't really end till our first face to face meeting. He was everything he said he was, and was everything I had hoped for. I was hooked!!
Things went fast with us, but it felt natural. While I don't believe that it should be fast, I do believe in letting nature take its course. Dar is everything to me, and I would be hard pressed to find anyone even remotely more perfect for me. He knows me, inside and out, and accepts me for who and what I am. He never demands anything of me that is unreasonable, and knows my limits even better than I do. I love his laugh, and his sweet face. When we are being silly, he has the most adorable expression that makes me want to kiss and snuggle with him. He is a true southern gentleman and treats me like a queen, or as he likes to call me, his "Princess Bunny".
Love for us larger girls is harder to find I think, but not impossible. I am very lucky to have found mine, and would like to offer hope to those of us who are still searching. It is out there, I promise. But I feel that if it is the real thing, it is worth waiting for. Cupid has his own schedule, we are just appointments on it."
"I am writing this without having read Ceci's description of how we met, but I should probably say that any discrepancies in the story result from my error, lol. This story is the essential, most meaningful series of events in my life and I could probably write a book about it so the difficulty for the present assignment will be cutting and summarizing to keep this short enough that someone might actually read it.
When I messaged Cecilia for the first time, I said something like, "Hi, you seem like a really, interesting person, I'd love to chat sometime." I honestly was not considering much more than someone to talk to. I could describe all that was going on in my life at the time, but I'm not here to speak ill of anyone. Suffice it to say that I was in a marriage that had been over emotionally for over a year, and existed as nothing more than a scrap of paper and a financial arrangement. I didn't see any way out of my situation and, frankly, was either too scared or too lazy to change what was going on.
When Ceci responded that first day, we talked a little about English history, about trivia, and then about genealogy. Nothing to suggest we'd be head over heels in love in a week. But there we were. There was never a formal request for a relationship, nor any written or spoken declarations of love. Even the idea that we would eventually get married came up mutually and almost informally. We decided not to say "I love you" until we could say it looking into each others' eyes. We met in person on New Year's Eve, 2006, and spent two days just enjoying each other's company. The logistics of our relationship were more than a bit difficult at the beginning, but neither of us ever once questioned that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together, nor has either of us questioned it since.
It can be difficult to break down exactly what I love about a woman whose essence is everything in my life. It is not something I've spent a lot of time trying to analyze. But thinking about it now, I would say the thing I love most about Ceci is her nearly-infinite kindness. She always goes out of her way to say or do something nice to the many people we meet in our truck driving. She has a backbone, and you don't want to get on her bad side, but unless you've done something awful to her, she doesn't have a mean bone in her body The thing is, unfortunately, people have been awful to her, and I find it amazing that she has kept her outlook of kindness and hope through it all. I also love Ceci's intelligence, which is refreshing in a homespun way, as she hasn't had much higher education, but when she's interested in something, she studies it in great depth, and knows as much about it as anyone. She has an active penetrating mind, and often sees problems from a unique perspective. There are many other aspects of her personality I could mention, and of course I could go into detail about her exquisite SSBBW body, but I think I am going to end this writing and spend some time with my fiancee."
Letters to the Editor...
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