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It's That Time of Year Again

So here we go again. Christmas and New Year. And for me it's also my birthday - but that's just a bit of added pressure! This time of year is super stressful for anyone with concerns over their weight and appearance. It's so hard to stay positive faced with tables full of food, family who may comment on your size, and the dreaded New Year's Resolution.

So let's work backwards to create a plan that will help you keep your head up high over the next few weeks. Firstly, don't make any ridiculous New Year's resolutions like losing 100 pounds, running a marathon and never eating chocolate again. They won't work. What will happen is you'll experience something I've heard of as "the Last Supper effect". You decide that come 1 January you are only going to eat healthy, so that means you better enjoy those last few weeks - including Christmas. This give you permission to get a bit carried away and you may find you'd eat far more than normal, right up until midnight on 31 Dec you could be "just finishing off those foods".

Of course..The first few days of January roll around, and you fall off your new eating plan. Except now you're carrying a few extra pounds from the last minute binging and finishing off of bad foods. So you end up in a far worse cycle than if you'd not made the stupid resolutions!!

Make sensible resolutions instead that are realistic. Or - don't make any of them, and instead, start them right now! Take the pressure of the end of the year.

The other thing to watch out for is at Christmas that you don't try and deny yourself too much, in an effort to please family members who may say nasty things. Eat what you want to eat - and regular size people over indulge a bit around this time of year, so don't worry if you do to. Should you be faced with comments about your second helping of dessert then just have a bit of a prepared speech. Sometime along the lines of, "Thanks for your concern, I'm sure you mean well, but it's not really appropriate/fair/your business to comment on my body."

If being direct doesn't work just make sure you've not had a few too many drinks otherwise you might be liable to slip out a few choice comments like, "Thanks Uncle Ben. Since you've commented on my body and it's not your business it's only fair I tell you about your bad dress sense/alcoholic behavior/wife's affair with the mailman etc etc"

That's the key really. A sense of humor. Thick skin is needed for everyone this time of year - not just SSBBWs. So prepare yourself now. Stay calm, eat normally, indulge a little if you will, don't make any stupid promises you know you won't keep and before long the whole sorry mess will be over and done with!

Written by: Jody

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