Profiling SSBBWs and their views, thoughts and issues
To help inspire those SSBBWs who haven't yet gotten that they are wonderful, caring, sexy, special people. Someone who is accepting of themselves, who is happy (either alone or with a loving mate), perhaps someone who works or does good things for the community. It doesn't matter who you are or what you do. There is so much negativity on the net towards SSBBWs that we want to show the good side. If you know someone who fits this bill or feel you do and want to get profiled, let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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This month's SSBBW is Gayla, a 46 year old from Manitoba, Canada
SSBBW Magazine: What is your current weight?
SSBBW Magazine: What body shape would you say you are?
SSBBW:Apple shaped – Large hanging belly
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been an SSBBW?
SSBBW:Oh yes. I was a chunky baby and grew into a fat child. I’m not talking pleasantly plump, I’m talking fat! I was on Weight Watchers when I was in 1st grade. I did T.O.P.S. which was Take Off Pounds Sensibly when I was in 3 rd grade or so. That was a great organization for a kid trying to learn to live fat in a thin world. If you put on weight over the week they made you “oink” like a pig. Anyway by 4 th grade I was in a women’s size 14. Of course my parents in an effort to help kept me on diets while I was growing up (and out). The smallest I remember being is in 10 th grade I was 140lbs. I was never more miserable in my life. Suddenly, people who never would talk to me when I was fat suddenly wanted to date me or be my friend? Well, needless to say when I got married at 20 I was back to 300lbs and it was all up hill from there. I’ve been an SSBBW all of my adult life. The exception has been early 1997 to early 1999 when I went from 397 to 291 on my last diet. Since then I’ve realized that I’ve always liked myself until society told me I shouldn’t.
SSBBW Magazine: Why would you be an inspiration to other SSBBWs?
SSBBW:Self image is so important and if there is one thing I try to tell everyone I meet it is to love yourself for who you are. Be happy in your body. It is a precious vessel that should be loved and honored no matter what you think the outer appearance may be!
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being an ssbbw?
SSBBW:One of the best things is that I never have to tread water! I can’t sink. I live where it is very cold and the extra insulation is really nice. There is a great feeling of being treated like a Goddess when you have the admiration of a True Fat Admirer. I’ve had the joy of having a website in the past and to talk to a man who honestly honors the SSBBW body is a great gift. I found one and married him.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
SSBBW:Not sure how graphic you want so I’ll try to be discreet. With my body type cleaning after a trip to the ladies room requires that I sometimes need to be a contortionist. I’ve bought a bidet for my home and that has been a big help.
SSBBW Magazine: What is it like being an SSBBW in today's society?
SSBBW: I mentioned earlier that I only disliked myself when I was younger when society dictated to me that I should. What I meant by that was things like society making bathroom stalls so small you have to grease your hips just to sit down on the toilet. Airplane seats so close together that even if you are skinny you have to share a seat with your neighbor. Oh and forget trying to go to the bathroom on the plane! How in the world do they really expect you to get a fat body in there, be able to bend over enough to get the clothes out of all the fat folds then sit on that hole that is no bigger then a cottage cheese carton! Then you got to spread those fat legs far enough to try and wipe without taking out the door and letting the entire plane see you, ha-ha! I do however think there are more places becoming aware of the fact that North America is getting Fatter every day and they are beginning to accommodate for larger and larger people.
SSBBW Magazine: How would you like to change society's view of SSBBW?
SSBBW: I would like for them to see that just because we are fat doesn’t mean we are in poor health, lazy, smelly, stupid or undisciplined. I’m a very intelligent woman with very good skills. I remember a few years ago when I was looking for work. I had 30 interviews, not applications, interviews, before I finally took a low paying, part-time job that a friend offered me at retail store. Once I was working there they quickly realized that they had a gem. I would just like them all to be willing to see a person for who they are as a package. Not what the package looks like and discard them.
SSBBW Magazine: What do people/companies serving the public need to do to accommodate ssbbws?
SSBBW: Fast food restaurants need to put movable chairs in, instead of only booths or stationary chairs. Restaurants need to put in sturdy armless chairs with wider bottoms. Retailers need to widen shopping aisles. My #1 thing though is clothing. Where I live there is 1 place I can buy clothes and then I have to just keep checking to see if they have things big enough for me. But what they don’t seem to realize in SSBBW clothing stores is that we need bras and panties too. I have to order my Bras and Panties from online because I can’t find my size in any store!
SSBBW Magazine: Can you recommend such people/services who do?
SSBBW: I find Wal-Mart to be size friendly for everyday shopping and they have got to where they carry up to a 4X (not big enough for me but). www.mizrak.com is where I order my panties and I love them. Bras are hit and miss for me though. I am really big busted but kind of small around so I have a hard time finding them. Montana ’s here has good comfy chairs, as does Boston Pizza.
SSBBW Magazine: Do you follow any exercise or healthy eating regimes? If so, what are they?
SSBBW: I actually follow a seafood diet… I see food and I eat it. =)
SSBBW Magazine: If you could wave a magic wand and be 130 lbs, would you?
SSBBW: Honestly, some days yes I would. We all have days when we don’t like who we are. I’m no different. But it took me a long time to be able to say, “My name is Gayla. I’m 408lbs of Sexy Sensual woman. I’m beautiful and I’m not ashamed to say so!” So I would only do it if I could change back to the real me. I wouldn’t know how to live skinny!
SSBBW Magazine: Do you have a favorite overweight actor/actress?
SSBBW: I have always loved Kathy Najimy – she is talented, funny, smart, and sexy and always wore it well. I don’t see her as often now that she has lost the weight.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
SSBBW:Life is too short to not love yourself. Live your life for you, not for anyone else. Your beauty shines through as your confidence in yourself grows. Only when you are truly happy with you can your true beauty show through. Be you, Be happy, Be Beautiful.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
SSBBW:If you are curious there is a reason. Search your heart and find out what it is. For the people who live this everyday this is not a fetish, it is a reality. This is not a fat suit I get to take off at the end of the day and my husband doesn’t get his jollies and then deny his love for me to others. If you are interested in this community then do the research, talk to people, and find out what it’s all about. Discover that we are real people with real lives and we are as sexy and sensual as any skinny woman on the planet.
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Gayla