Profiling SSBBWs and their views, thoughts and issues
To help inspire those SSBBWs who haven't yet gotten that they are wonderful, caring, sexy, special people. Someone who is accepting of themselves, who is happy (either alone or with a loving mate), perhaps someone who works or does good things for the community. It doesn't matter who you are or what you do. There is so much negativity on the net towards SSBBWs that we want to show the good side. If you know someone who fits this bill or feel you do and want to get profiled, let us know at email@example.com.
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This month's SSBBW is Red, a 36 year old from Oklahoma
SSBBW Magazine: What is your current weight?
SSBBW Magazine: What body shape would you say you are?
Red: Pear shaped
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been an SSBBW?
Red: I have always been blessed with a large frame. In high school and during early adult hood I was always size 12-20 which today is concidered acceptable. But, I was always labeled and felt like a much larger size. I am a mother of 5 children and most of my weight I put on with each child and hated myself for it. I have spent many years trying to conform to something other than what I was meant to be. I tried every "diet", every get thin quick product, and even went through the process of wanting a surgery alternative. Then I turned 36 and something clicked. I woke up one day and said to myself 'I am who I am and why should I worry so much about what people think of me?' I'm 335 lbs and healthier than some 20 yr olds...why change what works...
SSBBW Magazine: Why would you be an inspiration to other SSBBWs?
Red: I want to be. I want all of them to be inspired to get out and find what makes them truely happy. I personally love photography. Taking pictures and posing. This is a passion of mine. I have recentlly found that it makes me a happier person. I want SSBBW to see that one can be sexy and beautiful to people all over the world if you just let yourself. To just be you..that girl with the cute smile or silly laugh. The women who cooks or grows the perfect garden. All SSBBW have something that makes them an inspiration, it's the way you as a SSBBW presents it that makes you influential.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being an ssbbw?
Red: The joys.... strong, curvy, uninhibited, sexy, different, soft, busty and all woman. Here's a thought... I love that a man might want to be with a cute tiny "society" girl around their friends but once they find her and she has a few of his children and provides, cooks and gains a few pounds..society puts them on a talk show and labels them as "fat housewives" and shows the husbands looking for another woman to replace them. Boys wake up...cause waiting around the corner is a FA and he wants a woman that will give a good meal, children, and just a little something in the beadroom that no "society chick" could every provide. So look out cause soon enough the joys will out weigh the heartache....
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
Red: Floral, stripes where does that say sexy? I want more sexier clothes. I want to be able to show exactly what makes me so "gifted" as a SSBBW. I want to be able to shop in more than one store and find clothes that help me feel and look sexier. All SSBBW have a little in them why shouldn't they be able to show it.
SSBBW Magazine: What is it like being an SSBBW in today's society?
Red: It has it's moments. I find that I am not held at the same standard (yet) as a "normal" size person. Society still has the image of what is portrayed on TV/movies. I see commercials, movies, videos, news all portraying SSBBWs as these huge, sloppy, eats everything in huge colorful florals needing to forklift to get them out of a house. You don't see women as SSBBW portrayed as smart, funny, cute, and, oh yes, sexy! Most actresses become famous after they are dead or lose weight. There are only a handful out there compared to the rest of the population of actresses. Here's my example: I recently lost my job ( for those who don't know I was fired for having pictures on my myspace in sexy lingerie but nothing to realing..it's mysapce) and yet for the "normal" size woman it was acceptable and concidered "sexy" but for a SSBBW it was to revealing and i was labeled as a disgrace and disgusting to the community. Then, when the community discovered it was me the "fat woman" the town echoed with "what? Her? No..she's fat" Guess what, yes...and wow she is sexy...
SSBBW Magazine: How would you like to change society's view of SSBBW?
Red: Where do I begin... I just want to pave the way for my girls. I want them to know it's okay to have a little more than most. Okay to have the freedom to be who you are and not let people hold you to a "label" and restrict your thoughts and dreams to sitting at home and never seeing what the world has to offer. Believing that because certain people thought they were doing the right thing by "labeling" you for just being you when all along it was just a way to make them better at what they do. I have in just a short time proven to many that being SSBBW doesn't mean you have to be a ugly fat person. You can be beautiful and sexy and get all the thing you want if you just believe you are. This is what I want to prove to all society.. Big is in...
SSBBW Magazine: What do people/companies serving the public need to do to accommodate ssbbws?
Red: Drop the attitude. We have feelings. We are your mothers, sister, daughters. How would you feel if you felt the disgrace of someone's hatered toward them? Next, think. As a hostess that a booth may not fit a SSBBW that a chair would be better. When creating facilities realize that I take the hadicapped restroom because it's the only one that is wide enough to accomodate me when you are squeezing in 30 stalls to accomodate your construction design. And who invented turn-stiles at events? "Normal" people can't even fit. Think. As one woman said, "we have money to spend too..why wouldn't you want us to spend it on you???"
SSBBW Magazine: Can you recommend such people/services who do?
Red: Unfortunately, there's none that come to mind.
SSBBW Magazine: Do you follow any exercise or healthy eating regimes? If so, what are they?
Red: No, I drink and eat what I want but where I live it there's not all the "fast food" avaliable like in some places. I eat it on occassion; 3-4 times a day small meals and my only down fall is ice tea and chocolate. But I even eat it in moderation. I hate to "exercise" but I am active. I love the outdoors and I'm not limited in going and doing activities.
SSBBW Magazine: If you could wave a magic wand and be 130 lbs, would you?
Red: Well I like the magic wand idea but I really like being heavier...maybe 200lbs. ( Funny, -130 = 205lbs perfect)
SSBBW Magazine: Do you have a favorite overweight actor/actress?
Red: Monique..true inspiration..I love her love me or leave me alone attitude. Her ability to wake people up and see the big in her is inspiring....loved her in "Phat Girls" too.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
Red: We hear it all the time.."Life is too short." I have wasted so many years worrying about what everyone else thought. Limiting myself to what everyone else thinks is appropriate. When I was the one holding myself back. I have learned recentlly that there are so many people that just love what I am and think I'm beautiful with all the extra inches. There's days when I hate myself for allowing people all these years to corrupt my way of thinking. That maybe all those times I was being stared at was because they were thinking " Damm she is hot!!" My advise is: don't allow anyone to tell you that you are anything less than beautiful...and more than anything believe that you are beautiful.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
Red: That is how I came across this magazine. When I searched out of curiousity, I found that I needed to add them to my favorite sites and use it as a tool to keep me motivatied as a SSBBW. I feel there needs to be more voices with reason. If you are a SSBBW or a FA you need to speak up for more places like this. To support the community that supports you.
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Red [firstname.lastname@example.org]