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Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights has everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.

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Finding Love in a Skinny World

In a world where the Diet Industry is one of the top money makers, it’s no wonder that people who weigh 1 ounce over their goal weight are unhappy with themselves. Every time we turn on the TV or open the internet here is the next get skinny quick campaign and boy have I done my share of those trying to become the “someone” that everyone else thought I should be and I lived my life in misery.

In 1997 I did my last get skinny quick campaign. It was actually a great thing for me though! I went from 397 pounds to 291 in 8 months. I felt better about myself then I had in years. I stood up straight, walked with a bounce in my step and realized that I was a beautiful woman! And guess what? I still weighed almost 300 pounds but I didn’t feel like it. Because I realized for the first time beauty was a feeling that comes from inside me. The more I realized my own inner beauty, the more attractive I became to other people.

After my divorce in 1999, I was back to 370 pounds but I had not lost my love for life. I had found a couple of great SSBBW Chat Rooms and made a profile on Yahoo. I was already dating a couple of men locally, both of them fond of the bigger women and I loved that. I had never been with a man who was a Fat Admirer and while I couldn’t grasp the concept at first I loved the fact that I could be myself when I was with them.

Now if you are saying to yourself “I don’t want a man to love me just because I’m fat!” Think about this. Everyone that dates anyone else goes out with them because originally they were physically attracted to them in some way. What are you attracted to, maybe nice eyes, good hair or a great smile. Me, I like a nice butt! I tell my sister that I can’t go to a Miss America Pageant expecting to get a date because those guys want to date the Miss America type.

Yet I digress! So in January 2000 I was blessed with meeting the man of my dreams, Lance. I met him in Bulge Chat (no longer in service); we chatted online for about 15 minutes on 2 different occasions. He told me he lived in Canada but was a long haul truck driver and that from time to time he got to Texas. I told him to call me if he got my way and we would have dinner. That was on a Wednesday and he called me Friday night and asked me for dinner on Saturday. Here it is summer of 2007. I am now at 425 pounds; Lance and I were married in August of 2006 and I moved to Canada with him.

So forget what the TV and get skinny quick campaigns are telling you. Look in the mirror and remember that we are all unique and beautiful and that you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. Get up; put on your sexiest clothes and live your life happy and love will happen.

Submitted by Gayla Neufeld

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